Monday, June 30, 2014

There's nothing romantic about Robin Thicke's antics.

If Robin Thicke were a character in one of my books, he'd be the stalker!
I didn't always feel this way about Robin.
When I first heard Thicke singing When I get You Alone, I was hooked. I didn't think Robin Thicke would eat Jon B's career, but it seems as if these days you can only have one white boy with soul in R&B. But I digress.

So, Babyface couldn't duplicate the success of Jon B with Robin. I'm thinking it may have had more to do with long hair and bike riding video. Then the Neptunes took over and The Evolution of Robin Thicke was born.

My favorite song from that CD was Wanna Love You Girl. Pharrell is a damned genius. So, I was drinking the Robin Thicke Kool-Aid and pretending that he wasn't corny Alan Thicke's son. Then I saw he was married to Paula Patton.

I'm a sucker for a love story. They were high school sweethearts, she was the inspiration for his music. She was on the cover of his first album and the star of many of his videos. Aww, the romance writer in me was pleased.
Stalker much? Robin Thicke is doing the most to win Paula Patton back.

Then, Robin started tripping. It started with some off handed comments made to Essencemagazine where HE was telling BLACK men how to love BLACK women.
Hold up, partner —having a black wife doesn't make you an expert on black love.
To be a part of your biggest days -- you know your child being conceived or born, or you walking down the aisle -- there’s really nothing sweeter. That’s the truth.

It’s actually the best thing. It’s nice if you can make someone drop it like it’s hot, or pop a bottle. But we’re always dropping it and popping it. What I realize about the difference between me and my peers -- you know, Chris Brown and Drizzy Drake and all my musical peers -- is that they haven’t been with the same woman for 18 years and I’ve been with a Black woman for 18 years. I’ve never dated a White woman. Don’t want to. I’ve never been on a date with a White woman. When you have that relationship and that means the most to you -- you know I can’t live without that woman, she is my muse, my best friend, and my creative partner. I didn’t have a great relationship with my mom and she didn’t have a great relationship with her dad and we became that for each other. She’s my mama and I’m her daddy. I even call her mama and she calls me daddy. We are that to each other
 I started giving Robin the side eye after this. Like, really partner? Just keep singing. I bought Love After War, it was a decent album. AND YES, it inspired the name of my latest novelLove After War.
Again, I digress.
So, Robin blew up after Blurred Lines. And like the old saying goes, success shows who you really are. Robin Thicke is obviously an asshole. He did some shit, Paula left.
He wants her back and he's going about it in the worst way ever. Publicly. Jesus H. Christ, stop it please.

He named his new album, Paula.
His song, Get Her Back, has a video that features a Paula look alike and possible text messages that the two may have exchanged. Umm, dude, some things need to stay between a husband and wife. You trying to win your wife back is one of them.

Of course, Robin isn't the first man to use his personal pain to make music. Marvin Gaye left a blue print for it with Here, My Dear. His divorce settlement to Anna Gordy. Gaye was sued to keep this album from seeing the light of day. The difference in HMD and Paula is the fact that Marvin was mad as hell. He didn't want Anna back. He admitted that he was cheating with that young girl and the music was so much better.
My favorite cut from HMD:
A Funky Space Reincarnation (Google it. Great song!)
Now,  legend has it the Eric Benet's Hurricane was about his ex Halle Berry. *Kanye Shrug* You could say that Pretty Baby was a veiled reference to Berry, who we all know is beautiful. And before Eric Benet remarried, folks swore UP AND DOWN that all of his songs were about Halle Berry. Shaking my head, because I didn't see it.

But, back to Robin Thicke. If he wants to win Paula back, he needs to do one thing, STOP IT. 
That's right, stop with the public begging, stop with the sad sap songs and shut up. 
He needs to privately apologize to her, because my ears are bleeding. I can't with the begging. Maybe he shouldn't have done whatever it was that he did. Maybe he should've honored his marriage vows. Maybe he is more like his daddy than we wanted to believe

PS: Jon B is married to a black woman and he doesn't act like this! 


  1. What a really great blog and insight, Cheris. Let's hope Robin Thicke reads it and pulls it together.

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  3. I couldn't agree more. I am so sick and TIRED of Robin Thicke and his marriage that I don't even LIKE "Love After War" any more. ENOUGH ALREADY!!!!

  4. Mozell, we're talking about his song and not my book, right. LOL! :) I feel you.